In his talk, Fr. Angelo Wilfredo Legal, a licensed psychologist, pointed out that today's generation are generally wired and are Internet savvy
and that it is important for parents to understand this perspective in dealing with them. (Photo: Janine Javier/UB-MAP)
In strengthening its mental health awareness campaign, the University of Baguio (UB) organized a seminar for parents dubbed “Parenting the iGeneration” last Oct. 7 at the UB Centennial Hall.
“This is to complement the seminars about mental health that [we earlier organized for] our students. The school has also [organized] a seminar [for] our teachers about handling millennials. To complete the program, I think it is just proper that our parents should also be involved in our move to address the many issues of our children,” said Dr. Jocelyn Alimondo, principal of the UB Senior High School, in her remarks.
Fr. Angelo Wilfredo Legal, chair of the Theology Department of San Beda College in Manila who holds a master’s degree in psychology and is a licensed psychologist, served as one of the speakers at the seminar. His talk explored the developmental factors involved in raising millennials (born between 1981 and 1994) and the iGeneration, or those born in 1994 and later who grew up with a smartphone in hand.
“Millennials and the iGeneration are generally wired and are Internet savvy. It is important that we understand this perspective in dealing with our children,” explained Fr. Legal. “Their communication heavily relies on the use of social media and the Internet,” he added, further discussing the distinct characteristics that such generations exhibit. “They are independent and mature. They know they have to work hard for success rather than having it handed to them… and they do not just accept diversity – they expect it.”
Fr. Legal likewise harped on the age-old wisdom about a child’s development: “The way a family functions at home has an impact on a child’s behavior and eventually this will translate to how he functions in the world.”
Moreover, he reminded the parents to “let our children stretch their wings. Allow them to learn in a relevant space. Let them fail – young adults with overly involved parents have greater chances of developing anxiety or depression. Kids crave independence, so grant them some, even if it means they’ll hit setbacks.”
He finally left the parents with the following point: “Talk to them, without talking down to them. Like us, they are in search of meaning, their purpose. Teach them to look up; in times of trouble, teach them to look even higher, assuring them there is an even bigger God who loves them.”
Meanwhile, Rhoda Carbonel of the UB School of Liberal Arts and Human Sciences Psychology Department talked on guiding teens in their career path.
Evangeline Pimentel, one of the parents who attended the seminar, remarked, “[We, parents,] should give importance on proper time management and [our] adaptive capacity, as we are dealing with another generation of distinct characteristic and lifestyle. Relatively, it is still our duty to instill moral and spiritual values [in] our children as they need guidance and assistance rooting from our individual experiences.”
At the conclusion of the activity, a parent expressed appreciation for "engaging parents in our collective goal to raise a well-rounded generation."
The activity is part of the depression awareness campaign of the University. It was organized by the UB Senior High School Psychology Department in coordination with the UB Media Affairs and Publications Office. It was held in line with the celebration of the World Mental Health Day, observed on October 10 each year.
Some of the parent participants with (clockwise) Aubrill Faye Cariaso, head of the UB Senior High School Psychology Department (second from right, second row); Ronalyn Banaken of the UB Media Affairs and Publications Office; Sonnie Lyn Contreras (UB Senior High Psychology Department); Joyme Ragacho from the UB School of Liberal Arts and Human Sciences; April Sadien (UB Senior High Psychology Department); Novy Galletes; and Shiela Natalie Juyag, both from the UB Center for Counseling and Student Development (Photo: Janine Javier/UB-MAP)